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by Miami New Times

I remember vividly the days that led to my coming to Miami from Cuba. I was only 9 years old and turmoil, to say the least, was at hand. We were leaving my country for a short period of time. No one in my family thought it was forever. But even as a goodbye, it felt very sad.

My mother told me we would be staying in Miami for a long vacation, but I knew better. I overheard a conversation between my mother and father. They were afraid that Fidel Castro was installing a communist regime and that they would lose custody of the children to the state and the ability for us to practice our faith.

At that time, I couldn’t understand how they would make the ultimate sacrifice of leaving everything behind for my little brother and me. My father, who was in his 30s, already had a very successful job and future in an American company, and was finishing his studies at La Universidad de La Habana as an electrical engineer. My mother had a doctorate in philosophy, also from the same university. She was working as a teacher.

In those days, they seized all American businesses, and Mr. Skilton, my dad’s boss, and his family were expelled from the country. It was very sad for me. In their home, I had learned many American values and, because of the Skiltons, I celebrated Halloween and Thanksgiving. The regime asked my dad to help in the take-over of this business. My dad replied he wasn’t a thief. He had to leave the country before us.

On November 6, 1960, my mom, my 4-year-old brother Freddie, and I left Cuba for Miami. They put us in the “fish bowl,” a glass room where you stayed for hours, fearing your name would be called to be searched. From my seat, through the glass, I could see my grandparents trying to hold their tears so that we would not see them cry. What I didn’t know at that moment is that I would never see my paternal grandparents again. Still today, that sad memory touches my heart when I’m sitting in any enclosed glass room. I held my mother’s hand as the Pan American flight left Havana late that afternoon. People were crying; others feared the plane would go back to Cuba and screamed to the pilot not to return. You could hear the sobbing throughout the hour that the flight lasted.

The Miami International Airport was in the same place as it is today, but back then it was a small building with a terrace. We all came down the ladder and some kissed the ground. Before we went into U.S. Customs, in a moment of emotion, we sang the Cuban National Anthem. Then I saw my dad on the terrace waving at me, and I knew at that moment, that Cuba will always be in my soul but that Miami was home.

A few days later, I started school at Kensington Park Elementary. I knew very little English. My classmates were so friendly, but I only had one friend who could communicate with me, a Cuban boy named Ricky. We were the only two Cubans in the class. Children learn fast, and weeks later, I could say the words to “America the Beautiful” and the Pledge of Allegiance.

Every Saturday, at 8 in the morning, I had religious education classes at Sts. Peter and Paul Catholic Church. It was too early for me, but my father would make me go, regardless of my protests. After all, that was one of the main reasons we had left Cuba — so that we could practice our faith in freedom.

Soon, all my friends and their parents started arriving from Cuba. We lived in the northwest section of Miami, near the dog track. We went almost every day to the airport to give support to those in our same situation who were just arriving. Everyone was family and we helped each other.

Christmas was an emotional time. The year before, I had received so many gifts – twice — some from Santa Claus and others for Three Kings Day. But most important, my grandparents were there. This year, my young parents were alone and could not afford too much since my dad did not have a job. Days before Christmas, we received an invitation for a Christmas party for Cuban children at the Gesu Church in downtown. Included was a card for a special gift, and I still remember how nice it felt, and the excitement of a child who had nothing. It also meant a lot to my parents.

On Sundays, were outings to Miami Beach, Lincoln Road and the parks, and we would take picnics. Once, we tried to sneak into Parrot Jungle but were told you had to be 5 to go in free. So the picnic was outside.

Months later, we had to leave and go to Puerto Rico to find a job for my dad. In all the years we lived in Puerto Rico, we came to Miami every year. The Magic City is the place where most Cubans want to be – for friends and family, Cuban food and pastelitos. But the love of America, the generosity of its people, and the opportunities given to us, made us Cuban Americans.

More than 40 years ago, in 1971, a small restaurant called Versailles came to be. Every time we arrived from Puerto Rico, my dad would take us from the airport to Versailles. Later, when I moved back, my friends and I would always go after the parties for café con leche. I sat there with my husband, then my boyfriend, for long conversations. I pushed my babies’ carriages through the tables, and when my children were teenagers, I took them for lunch and advice. Today, Versailles is the first place to stop when they come from college or from a long trip. Versailles is part of our Cuban culture in Miami.

In the ‘70s, my parents bought an apartment in Key Biscayne, which we call El Cayo. It was the place where I met my husband. We married 35 years ago and have three children. Today, I live in the Grove, and see bikers every day riding the same trails I used to ride to Matheson Hammock. And still my Cuban-American soul finds Miami is my home.

One sunny, mid-week afternoon, I arrived at home to family cars parked in the front yard. I did not have to dig for the house key in my bookbag. My father stood in front of the door as if shielding me from something.

As I entered the house, I heard a woman crying. Family members surrounded the crying woman whom I soon realized was my mother. It was the first time I saw her cry as a result of something I didn’t do. I did not have a broken arm or a D on my report card. On that afternoon, my mother had lost her father.

After I kissed her and said nothing, I went to my room and watched MTV when videos were all the rage. I did not understand what had happened. Death was one of those things I heard tossed around in other people’s conversations. I identified death with Friday the 13th movies and drug dealers on the news.

My whole life I had taken pride in the fact that all of my grandparents were alive and well. I wore that on my sleeve and carried it around as if I had won a trophy. Abuelo was not sitting in a Cuban jail cell, waiting in a ration line, and eating other people’s household pets. Abuelo was in Miami, living in a condo, shopping at Publix and eating steak. Now, Abuelo was suddenly gone, from complications related to diabetes, and there was nothing doctors, my family or I could do about it. Life threw us this curve ball and we had to catch it.

It was my first funeral and the only thing I looked forward to was to practice making my own tie. When I arrived at the funeral home, everyone was already there. The place smelled of cigarette smoke and Cuban coffee. Strangers offered their condolences, hugs and spearmint gum. All I could do was smile and walk away.

As I went toward the room, my grandmother sat crying in a chair next to the casket. Beautiful flowers were scattered near her. The reds, whites, yellows, and greens clashed with her black dress. She was surrounded by more strangers with some hovering over her like more of those loser contestants. The rest of them stood in line waiting their turn to comfort her. I thought all the faces were probably the same to her. Her hands always touched their elbows and her tissue almost always fell on the floor.

I went up to my grandmother, kissed her cheek and walked away through the lobby, the glass doors, the parking lot, and into a cafeteria. As I ordered a pastelito and Materva, I saw some of the strangers from the funeral. They didn’t seem so strange anymore. Their faces and voices sounded familiar. The talk of old Cuba, the exile community, Miami, Hialeah, and my family comforted me. Those were things I had heard before and things my Abuelo used to say.

After spending the night at the funeral home, I woke to find the world still around me. Everyone was still talking and whispering comforts in the air like shooting the breeze over a game of dominos. No one slept. They probably feared they would miss out on one of my grandmother’s wails or so-and-so’s daughter or son and how they are still not married.

At that moment, the priest called everyone to pray the rosary. When the prayer was over, I walked outside with my parents, grandmother and brother to look for the limo. In the corner of the parking lot, the limo rested beneath the shade of one of those trees filled with moon-shaped green seeds. I remembered having block fights with those same seeds and that after one of the fights, I walked back home to find my grandparents waiting in the driveway with packages in their arms and smiles on their faces.

Abuelo said in broken English, “Who’s going to pick up the seeds?”

After the priest did what priests do and said what priests say, the cemetery workers rolled Abuelo’s casket to the rear of the mausoleum. My family and I were walking on a back street with a chain-link fence dividing the mausoleum and some kind of factory. The unkempt hedges sheltered some litter scattered close to the fence. The workers opened the side of the building and I caught a glimpse of where Abuelo was going to be. It looked like dusty concrete shelves. Objects were scattered like the litter next to the chain-link fence. I comforted myself by thinking it was better than being buried in just another hole in the ground with other people’s loved ones walking all over him. At least Abuelo had chosen this place for himself.

That night, I found myself sleeping next to my grandmother. It was dark and I realized that I really did not want to be next to her. I started to cry because I knew this is where I had to sleep tonight. My grandmother woke up and as she wiped the tears off my face, she told me, “No lo puedo creer. El gordo no esta aqui.”

She couldn’t believe her fat man was not there with her. I felt guilty for sleeping in his spot and for reminding her that she would not sleep with Abuelo again. As she reassured me that everything was going to be fine, I reached over and touched her face. As the wind and rain howled outside the window, I rubbed her dry face, rolled over and went to sleep.

My maternal great-grandfather’s brother, John Tatem Wofford, homesteaded in Hallandale in the late 1800s when it was still a part of Dade County. Early in the 20th Century, he and his family moved to the wilderness of what became Miami Beach to construct one of the Beach’s first hotels, the Wofford Beach Hotel, at 24th and Collins.

The Woffords were among the first to be buried in the Miami City Cemetery, resting near the Burdine family crypt.

About 1915, my paternal grandmother’s brother, Jacob Decker, and his wife, Addie Mae, moved into a home at 2353 NW 28th St., then known as the Allapattah Prairie. Uncle Jake died in 1971 and Aunt Mae lived there until the early 1980s, when she moved to Naples. Their house still stands. I was born into the Central Florida branch of my family, so I never visited Miami until my teenage years.

In my mind’s eye, I had painted a vision of Miami Beach as a tropical Disneyland, helped along by the intro to The Jackie Gleason Show. On my first trip up Collins Avenue, I was very surprised to discover supermarkets and even a McDonald’s existed there! Miami Beach’s late publicist Hank Meyer had done his job on me quite well.

On my first trip to Miami in 1976, I drove all night from Daytona to get here. I-95 at the time ended in Vero Beach, where you picked up U.S. 1. to the east or Florida’s Turnpike to the west.

I arrived in town about sun-up. That memory of driving into Miami Shores with the majestic Royal Palms lining Biscayne Boulevard is one I will never forget. Today as a Miami Shores resident, I relive that moment each time I drive south on Biscayne.

I arrived just in time to witness all of our growing pains. From the laid-back metropolis of the late 1970s, we came through riots, the Mariel boatlift, the Dadeland Mall Shootings and Hurricane Andrew.

That said, many wonderful things have happened along the way. The birth of the Miami Beach Art Deco District, Christo’s Surrounded Islands, Biscayne Boulevard MiMo and its surrounding neighborhoods, Midtown Miami and the Design District, Art Basel — and people living downtown again!

At 25, I bought my first home, a little cottage at 1011 NE 72nd St. The house was small, but I had a wonderful unobstructed view of Biscayne Bay and Miami Beach. I could sit on my front porch and watch the time and temperature change on Lincoln Road.

No one in 1984 was sure what would become of the East of Biscayne neighborhoods. Many thought I had made a terrible investment by buying there.

That same thought raced through my mind on August 23, 1992, with the prospect of being washed away by a 16-foot storm surge from Hurricane Andrew.

Our neighbors to the South took the hit that was originally predicted to come ashore in North Dade. That neighborhood today is known as the Bayside Historic District and I’m proud to have played a role in seeing it historically designated.

In the early ’90s, I moved to higher ground in Miami Shores.

In 1978, I started in banking as a teller at Chase Federal Savings and Loan Association in Surfside and moonlighted at Burdines on 163rd Street to make ends meet.

It’s hard to imagine today, but there was a time when banks actually had to pay people a higher salary if they would agree to work on Miami Beach. Jokingly called ‘Combat Pay,’ it was because the mostly elderly population of the Beach could be quite demanding at times.

My having grown up around many elderly people served me well. After a 10-year government career stint with Dade County, I joined Northern Trust Bank, where I’m proud to say I’ve been for the past 16 years.

Along the way, there have been many changes to Miami. Gone are The Miami News, shopping at Burdines, Jordan Marsh, J. Byron’s and Richards, the Orange Bowl and its parade, a meal at the S&S; Diner on Northeast Second Avenue when the Cavallaris family still owned it. They’ve all been replaced by new ‘rocks’ and institutions along the way.

And yes, those tall Coconut Palms are still my favorite trees and they surround my MiMo home in Miami Shores.

Miami isn’t for everyone. Many will never understand why we choose to be here nor what is this great magnet that keeps us from leaving. Much more than the balmy weather, I think we all have a pioneering spirit that drives us to embrace diversity and combat adversity. We would die of boredom otherwise.?

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